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Who Speaks?

About one-third of the residents in my independent living facility are male. That’s understandable since women tend to live longer.  But what I have noticed is that when I am around the male residents, they do most of the talking.  And most of them don’t ask anything about me. I think approximately zero male residents know what I’ve done with my life.

Those of us born in the years 1928-1945 are generally known as “the silent generation” because we are said to be “conformist, quiet and less rebellious”.

The men here don’t seem to have got that message.

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4 responses to “Who Speaks?”

  1. Roberta Avatar
    Roberta

    Thank you for brining a laugh to the start of my day. When we lived in the over 55 community last year there were two men who sat in the lobby every day waiting for the mailman to arrive. One did all the talking and one did all the listening. So of course, since we had nicknames for everyone, we called them……the “talker” and the “listener”…….

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  2. sheilarup@duck.com Avatar
    sheilarup@duck.com

    So sad that most men lose out on women’s conversations. Just had an impromptu chat with four women after exercise. We talked and listened and learned: the joys of reaching 80, the best wireless bras, and women who can no longer smile because of botoxed lips. And the importance of laughter. All in 10 minutes, and we all felt so good.

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  3. mmbrick Avatar
    mmbrick

    Interesting but I think the ball is in your court. Speak up. Many times people do all the talking because they are nervous and insecure. You have so much to give everyone you meet. You will get this group you live with going in a more productive and interesting way like you have always done. 💪🥳

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  4. Paul F Albert Avatar
    Paul F Albert

    Thank you Judy for broaching about life in the retirement community. I live in one as well and have been wondering how you are doing there. How sad that the male residents are missing out by not getting to know you! My experience has been after four plus years that new residents are often open to knowing me while those who are more entrenched are not. Maybe you will discover this as well. Hold care and keep posting!

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