In 2021 I drafted a post entitled “Pronouns,” but never published it. Recently, my blog host closed down and in changing to my new one, the long forgotten post (written shortly after my husband Peter died) appeared. A lot has happened in four years, but here it is…

Pronouns

I am enrolled in three classes.  This does not go well with trying to process losing a husband.  However, one of my classes is quite practical.  It’s called Understanding Gender Identity.  I chose it because I want to be up-to-date on the ever-changing vocabulary that goes with sex identity.  To me, referring to a single person as “they” does not come easily. 

My own vocabulary is challenging at this moment.  My apartment is no longer ours.  It’s mine.  We don’t have tickets to a concert, I do. 

And when I went to a dinner party last weekend, there were five people, not six, although in my heart, Peter was there. He would have loved the conversation.

And the dinner.