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Don’t Cry for Me Argentina

On Saturday I saw a matinee of a new production of the musical “Evita.”  First staged in 1978, and made into a movie in 1996, I somehow missed both the play and the film.  Of course, I had heard the title song.  Who hasn’t?

The production had a few imperfections, but I found it mesmerizing. I went with a couple that Peter and I had shared many wonderful events with. After we parted, around 5:00 pm, I felt a little sad, so I stopped in a nearby florist shop, and bought myself a bunch of daisies, the flower that marked so many happy occasions in my marriage.

But that didn’t lighten my mood.

I had been warned by friends that unexpectedly, serious grief returns periodically after losing a loved one.  And on Saturday, I couldn’t hold back my tears as I faced the evening alone.

I texted my older son that I was in a funk, and he called.  We chatted for twenty minutes.  As always, he made me laugh.  And all with my world was OK again.

The next morning, thanks to YouTube, I listened to Don’t Cry for Me Argentina. 

My eyes filled with tears.

Widowhood isn’t for sissies.

 

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4 responses to “Don’t Cry for Me Argentina”

  1. CAROL Avatar
    CAROL

    SO TRUE! MY HUSBAND OF 55 YRS HAS BEEN GONE FOR 5 YRS NOW AND EVERY NOW AND THEN I HAVE A CRYING JAG AND SOMEHOW IT HELPS ME TO SEE HOW LUCKY I HAVE BEEN TO HAVE HIM FOR SO MANY YEARS.( WE WENT TO HIGH SCHOOL TOGETHER ALSO) AFTER I HAVE MY LITTLE CRY THEN I REALIZE WHAT WONDERFUL MEMORIES I HAVE AND THINK OF THE FRIENDS I STILL HAVE AND I ONCE AGAIN HAVE JOY IN MY LIFE. LIFE IS STILL GOOD❤️

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  2. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Oh my goodness! I am so sorry you felt sadness. I am uncertain how long you have been a widow, but my mother, who has been a widow now for over two decades, said that for her, the second year after my father’s death was the most difficult. Many friends no longer visited or talked about her husband, and she felt very lonely.
    I don’t have any sage advice, but I do hope that you feel supported. Thank you for sharing.

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  3. Linda McMahan Avatar
    Linda McMahan

    Hi Judy,
    I am with you. I have been a widow for almost six years. Memories of lost love ones can be painful. You are so blessed with two wonderful sons and two grandchildren with Peter’s traits always in presence with you. Have a wonderful Summer, Judy! Take care.
    Linda

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  4. Natalie C Tyler Avatar
    Natalie C Tyler

    I am so sorry. Loss, grief, mourning are moods I move amongst. I somewhat appreciate my moments of grief because I think they represent my ability to continue the relationship in a way. I spend a lot of time thinking about how my sister would have responded to news, art, books, that have emerged since her death in 1975. I can imagine how she would have enjoyed. “Evita” as a fascinating study. I can imagine that we might have made a private meaning for “Don’t Cry For Me, Argentina”. It feels comfortable to me now. I don’t think widowhood can ever be “comfortable” or “comforting”.
    I deeply appreciate your blog. I hope you continue to write about Peter.

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